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  <body>&lt;p&gt;Networking can be great for sales... Networking can be great for career advancement... Networking can be great for job transition...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Networking can give you a headache if it&amp;rsquo;s not done well...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I read a post today&amp;nbsp;in an online professional discussion forum about a networking event that the poster  attended.&amp;nbsp; He said that there were a lot of small business owners there, and he was constantly &amp;ldquo;getting pitched and  pitched hard&amp;rdquo; as he met people.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I can definitely relate.&amp;nbsp; I go to many networking events. And I have encountered many sales people, small business owners and other &amp;quot;experts&amp;rdquo; that love telling people&amp;nbsp;what&amp;nbsp;they need and what they should be doing about --&amp;nbsp;well, &lt;i&gt;everything!&lt;/i&gt; &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;When I read the post, though, a part of me wanted to apologize on behalf of those small biz owners and sales folks.&amp;nbsp;  You see...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I am also one of the small business  owners, and a lot of my livelihood depends on networking.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;But I don&amp;rsquo;t &amp;quot;pitch&amp;quot; my services to people I meet at networking events. I found out a long time ago that is counter-productive.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;When asked, I follow a system to tell  them what I do and who I help, and then I listen to see if they want to talk further about it. If not, we move on to other topics.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I think there is no faster way to kill a relationship before it&amp;rsquo;s begun than to pitch to someone who may not be interested, or to assume that someone &amp;ldquo;needs&amp;rdquo; your product or service and then act prematurely on that assumption.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;And this is important because...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Successful networking is all about relationship building.&amp;nbsp; Not sales.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Let me put it another way:&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;The best way to get sales results from networking is to &lt;i&gt;not sell&lt;/i&gt;.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Before you decide I'm just plain goofy,  let me explain.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;As I said, I do a lot of networking, and  my business and sales depend on it. And I think I understand sales pretty well,&amp;nbsp;  having provided large group sales training sessions and one-on-one sales coaching for large well known companies as well as smaller, less known businesses.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;I have&amp;nbsp;taken what I've learned&amp;nbsp;from my various business experiences as well as material I&amp;rsquo;ve studied and trainings I&amp;rsquo;ve attended, and combined them to develop workshops for others that also depend on successful networking and sales strategies. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Below is a snippet of some of the &amp;quot;Networking Do&amp;rsquo;s and Don&amp;rsquo;ts&amp;quot; that I&amp;rsquo;ve  shared at those events, which have proven to go a long way to helping achieve long-term growth:&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;Do: &lt;/i&gt;- Be polite, respectful &amp;amp; honest. - Maintain a &amp;ldquo;helpful&amp;rdquo; mindset at all times.  - Think about what you can do to help the other person, not what they can do for you. - Ask a lot of questions. - Enjoy learning about others.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;Don&amp;rsquo;t: &lt;/i&gt;- Don&amp;rsquo;t &amp;ldquo;sell&amp;rdquo; without permission. - Don&amp;rsquo;t open with &amp;ldquo;What do you do?&amp;rdquo;  because it limits rapport-building. - No matter how great your conversation was, don&amp;rsquo;t rely on them to contact you. Take the initiative to follow up.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;/b&gt;I hope you find this information useful, especially when you&amp;rsquo;re at your next networking event.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;All the best, Jason &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</body>
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  <summary>&lt;p&gt;What is the best way to network, sell yourself, your product or service, without being annoying, unethical or turning people off? Here are&amp;nbsp;some common challenges in those areas&amp;nbsp;along with some &amp;quot;Do's and Don'ts&amp;quot; to make networking enjoyable and successful.&lt;/p&gt;</summary>
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