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Is it really a terminology trap whereby the "listener" takes what we are saying out of context? Or is it that we aren't speaking with a voice of conviction and self-belief that inspires the listener to hear what we were saying for what we meant?
An excerpt from a book I was honored to be part of:
Self-mastery and deeply rooted confidence take time to gain through experience. And some early experiences may need to be acknowledged, examined and then discarded. Our collective personal and professional experiences both matter a lot. And we don’t always assign as much value to the personal experiences that shaped our characters when we are focused on our professional pathways,
This book and the process of crafting a Professional Profile is really about shedding light on how important and inter-related the combined set of experiences is. We need to learn how not to discount either channel when it comes to portraying ourselves on paper and in person.
Above all we must BELIEVE in ourselves, our abilities, first and fully recognize our own talents. Why? That we might be a congruent and consistent applicant professionally for one thing. Imagine having a résumé that gets you an interview but giving an interview that makes them wonder why they invited you in? How many go into interviews essentially unable to talk of themselves with the right mix of confidence and storytelling and poise and humility?
*It is not what you say as much as it is the TONE and MANNER in which you say it that makes a lasting impression.
It naturally follows, therefore, that sincerity of purpose, honesty and earnestness must be placed back of all that one says if one would make a lasting and favorable impression.
Whatever you successfully sell too others, you must first sell to yourself. ~ Law of Success, Napoleon Hill (from the chapter on Enthusiasm)*
The most important advice I could ever give a jobseeker or solopreneur in search of new business is about as simple as can be:
Master the inner game long before you arrive for the meeting. Bring not only your knowledge of your skills and accomplishments and professional history. Bring also your awareness of who you are and what you bring to the world of work as a member of the team, an individual contributor and as a person.
We do business with real people. Therefore, we hire real people. And hopefully you are hired for the real person you are as well as the skill set you bring to the organization you join. So if you are searching for work, be it a new internal position or a new client to serve, we believe it is critical and valuable to be clear on who we are both professionally and personally.
Really knowing yourself creates natural confidence that others can sense and will experience.
The Book is titled: Burn Your Resume. You Need a Professional Profile. (TM) and my co-author and I self-published as of March 14th thru Amazon.
Your article is timely! There is a new wave of openings to be filled as Spring arrives and job seekers need their confidence and enthusiasm bolstered. And scripted ways of describing ourselves will fall flat and especially if we doubt ourselves as the ideal candidate.
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