We say developing our business is important. Do we mean what we say and say what we mean?
Last year, I had a profound coaching experience. My coach asked me what I wanted to do and I hadn’t done yet. I named a few coaching business related tasks and then, I shared that I wanted to sell my house. My dad was recovering from cancer treatment and thought I lived too far for him to visit. I wanted to move closer to my parents. My coach reflected back to me – “sounds like you have a lot of passion towards coaching and you will get the tasks done. I also wonder how important it was for you to move since you showed very little energy about it.”
She was right. I didn’t believe that I could organize enough to show my house for sale. The thought of organizing drained my energy. At the same time, I was shocked to hear moving might not be important enough for me to take actions. Could it be true? Did I mean what I said. I reflected and knew it’s very important for me to be closer to my 80-year-old parents and it’s critical for me to start taking actions in the falling real estate market.
I got my act together and put my house on the market in two months and sold it in three months. I did whatever it took to sell the house before year end; including giving away a lot of household items that appeared as clutter, replacing my agent friend who didn’t generate traffic and I reducing the asking price. None of those were easy decisions but when my actions were in alignment with my words, I achieved my goal. I am grateful for my peer coach Marijo Puleo and my personal organizer Mary Boiselle to support me to make it happen. Now, I live closer to my parents and we can visit easily.
I am listening to David Hawkins' “Intention”. He says the meaning of everything is "what is". There is no incompletion; things always go from complete to complete. And there is no imperfection; things always go from perfect to perfect. Everything is just “what is” and emerging; like a flower unfolds. With that thought, I invite you to do an exercise to reflect “what is” with your business. Please spend a few minutes to follow the inquiries. If your answer is “no” to any of them, go to inquiry 5 directly.Learn more about the author, Hsuan-Hua Chang, PCC, MS.
Readers, please share your thoughts.
Please also consider to attend my workshop this Sat in Bellevue starting at 10:30am Get Real About Your Business - Say What You Mean and Mean What You say.
We will have a fun and authentic conversation over the topic.
Good article. We always know where we want to go and do what we want to do while on vacation, but we sometimes forget our goals and action plans for growing our business. -Budy
Sometimes the obvious questions don't have obvious answers. The answers take time to evolve and emerge.
You are right Hsuan-Hua, we need to mean what we say by our actions! Nice article.
Krista - NWweddingplace.com
Thank you for sharing your experience and insights. Aligning our actions with our intentions is a catalyst for growth/movement/change.
We say it. We mean it. We toss out that which stands in the way. We make it happen.
How simple!
Mary- www.lafamiliallc.com
Hsuan-Hua mirrored her coach when speaking to me at one of her events. I have many ventures going, and she pointed out that there were a couple that I sounded excited about, but there was one that I sounded far less passionate about. I had never noticed that before, but she was right on, and yes, my speech was reflecting how I felt about that particular endeavor. (It was one of those that I kept because "a responsible person would be focusing on this" - but it was not where my heart was.) Cheers!
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