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Self Employment and Stress

When it comes to self employment stress, not everyone can handle it. This is one of the many cold, hard facts of self employment.
Written Sep 23, 2008, read 1865 times since then.
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Entrepreneurs are a diverse bunch of people, but when you ask them to tell you the greatest benefit of being self-employed, you’ll usually hear the same answer over and over. That answer is FREEDOM, and rightly so. When you work for yourself, no one tells you what to do—at least not in the same way a boss would.

But there are always pros and cons to everything. Stress being one of them, as a individual who is self-employed, you need to be able to handle this on your own.

Self employment and stress is a little different when there’s no one to rely on but you. When you work alone, you stress alone. Self employment isn’t always filled with security. No kind employer is going to give you health insurance, or even an extra day off. There are no Christmas bonuses and there are no stock options. In the most real way possible, you’re on your own. Yes, it’s liberating.

But yes, it can also be stressful. It’s all on you, now. Missed appointments. Something forgotten Not enough money coming in You, you…You. It’s a lot of pressure. Some people find that self employment stress is so overwhelming, they would rather go back to "regular" employment.

Don't give up!

When it comes to self employment stress, not everyone can handle it. This is one of the many cold, hard facts of self employment. But to all things there is a bright side, and there are few things quite as satisfying as earning your own income through successful self employment. For those that can handle the inevitable stress, self employment is a very happy occupation.

Being healthy to handle self employment stress is essential if you want to achieve self employment success. When your career relies on nothing but your own efforts, you can’t let stress bog you down or cloud your thinking. You have to find a way to deal with the stress, so you can get back to the business of making money and creating more ideas/products. Making money is what it’s all about, but when you’re over-loaded with stress it’s hard to concentrate on anything else.

You’re self employed; there’s no "boss" to impress here, and you’re entitled to a break when you feel completely stressed out. Turn off the computer, turn down the phone, place your pen back on your desk and very simply walk away. At least for the moment. Go have a snack, listen to a little soft music or nature tape that has the sound of waves on it....watch TV, maybe go for a jog - whatever you think might help you unwind. Take a bubble bath, heck, have a cocktail if it’ll help.

Self employment means, incidentally, that you can have cocktails (not one right after the other, or all day long - this is inadvisable). But step away from working for a moment. Sometimes, the best way to deal with stress is very simply to remove yourself from a stressful situation. Very often, while you’re unwinding and relaxing, the answer to your stressful problem will come to you.

Consult friends and family members if you need advice or help in dealing with your stressful situation. You’ll find that hearing feedback from others often helps to place things into perspective, and just talking about your stress often relieves that stress.

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Comment on this article

  • Filmmaker 
Seattle, Washington 
Dan McComb
    Posted by Dan McComb, Seattle, Washington | Sep 24, 2008

    Wow, I can completely relate to this article, Marta. A couple of days ago I broke out with some nasty pimples on my shoulder, and a visit to my awesome naturopath today confirmed my hunch: it's stress related.

    Happiness and freedom are definitely fringe benefits of entrepreneurship. But it's not all happiness and light. So I'm taking your advice: no matter that I'm three days behind on my email. This weekend, I'm going to load up the car and do something I've been wanting to do for a long time - spend a weekend on the Washington Coast.

    (To anyone that I have outstanding correspondence with at the moment, don't worry, I'm taking my laptop with me!)

  • Helping small business owners turn their ideas into words 
Tappan, New York 
Deidre Rienzo
    Posted by Deidre Rienzo, Tappan, New York | Sep 24, 2008

    Hi Marta- Nice article. I totally agree- stepping away does help in stressful situations. Sometimes I find myself stressing over something, and then I realize that stressing over it isn't going to fix anything at that particular moment- it's just going to make me more stressed! It can be hard to step away, but often a little bit of time can help things fall into place. And somehow, if you keep your goals in mind, things always have a way or working out. Thanks!

  • Associate Broker, EcoBroker,ABR 
Bellevue, Washington 
Winnie Lau-Heath
    Posted by Winnie Lau-Heath, Bellevue, Washington | Sep 24, 2008

    Dear Marta,

    We are in the same boat. I have been self-employed for years after working in corporation in a decade, sometimes, I still don’t get used to the lifestyle. I do the followings when I am stressed:

    -yoga, meditation, exercise, etc, to increase endorphin that makes you happy. -telling myself that nothing wrong to have “free” time since I report to myself! -have a support system of friends, family or groups who can help emotional release Recently, stay away from negative market news

    I hope that helps!

  • Personal Coach, Life Exfoliator, Public Speaker 
Bothell, Washington 
Andrew Delany
    Posted by Andrew Delany, Bothell, Washington | Sep 24, 2008

    Dear Marta, Great reminder to tend to self care---we just took a week at a spa in Mexico---why so extravagant? We have to role model 'stress relief', it's a professional responsibility!

    Best,

    Andrew

  • Integrated Website Marketing 
Vashon Island, Washington 
Scott Aaron Gaul
    Posted by Scott Aaron Gaul, Vashon Island, Washington | Sep 24, 2008

    Well put -- how stress blocks creativity, and an entrepreneur does not do well when separated from their creativity.

    The feeling of stress is primarily a function of the autonomic nervous system -- your "fight or flight" response. it is a rapid and automatic response to fear. The difficulty is, that stress is automatic but relaxation needs to be learned and practiced. You have to know how to calm your body and mind, and you need to practice that until it can become inhabit.

    A calm receptive mind is a creative mind.

    Thanks for the well written article.

  • Digital PR + Online & Search Engine Marketing 
Chicago, Illinois 
Marta Soto
    Posted by Marta Soto, Chicago, Illinois | Sep 24, 2008

    Thanks for all the responses, we all know the importance of taking care of US first, if we're not at our best how can we run our companies effectively as well as successfully? I am more ready for the day when my focus is there, stress takes that focus away so why not keep it in check.

  • Career Catalyst & Business Coach 
Phoenix, Arizona 
Richard Baum
    Posted by Richard Baum, Phoenix, Arizona | Sep 25, 2008

    On the positive side, my BP is down to 108/86 (from as high as 140/110). I have also lost 12 pounds from exercising more and less "stress eating." The "eustress" of being in charge of my daily activities and choosing my "value" in the marketplace is a motivator to persevere.

  • Undress the Stress Coach 
Surrey, British Columbia Canada 
Marianna  Paulson
    Posted by Marianna Paulson, Surrey, British Columbia Canada | Feb 21, 2009

    Dear Marta,

    You are so right in emphasizing what I like to call, T.O.T.O.M. or Theory of the Oxygen Mask. (In the unlikely occurrence of an emergency, please don your oxygen mask before attending to your children.)

    Stress is a matter of perception - that means it comes from within. Learn to change our perceptions and we learn to more effectively handle our stress-inducers.

    We are also able to follow-through on the systems we put in place. Often one of the ironic things is that when we're stressed we fail to do the things we know will give us relief.

    When we learn to balance our nervous system through heart-directed techniques, we're able to get up and go when we need to do so and also to sleep when it's time for that.

    To quote Martha, "and, that's a good thing."

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