This is so true! I have been asked too many times how I've achieved the happiness and success I have in my life, and as I told my story/guessed at my process, I could feel that it's just a story - just my process, how it happened FOR ME... not necessarily for anyone else!
I've been told that my story inspired and uplifted - that it made a big difference in a stranger's life, that they're psyched to apply the tool/perspective/process I used in their own daily life... and I have to let go of believing or not believing that. I could trust that coincidence/law of attraction/whatever actually brought me together with people who like to approach things the same way I do... but in all honesty, I feel that if they really wanted and were ready for a tool, they would have made their own.
When I started asking people what works for them, what was most fun about today/this year, what the most important lesson tis that they've learned in life, what they're doing when they feel free, I get to hear and find the pattern in what other people are doing right - in ways that are only right and fun for them!!!
That's why I don't call myself a life coach or a career consultant - I have tools, but they're for me.
I'm a self-image consultant, plain and simple: I ask clients affirmative questions, my client tells me about him/herself in the most raw, real way they know themselves, I admire them silently and reflect back/ask questions to help them find and draw on the functional creative process recognizable in all of their successes. Clients focus on becoming aware of themselves as perfectly powerful. No tools, no gimmics.
Clients and friends taught me that. Living in integrity is the result, for everyone involved. Nowadays, when I accidentally slip back into storytelling, advising (i.e. asking a friend or a stranger whether they've tried xyz yet -- guru complex) I immediately feel icky and stop myself while I'm able to take it all back and stay present to what's important: honoring and trusting the integrity, creativity, and resourcefulness I'm about to see - and out it comes: the insight!
I am going to edit my profile next week, and really admire your pointed article. Thanks for inspiring and empowering by not claiming that any secret powers of yours are actually transferable.
It's all the more obvious you have them.
And you know that all we need to findi t in ourselves is good chemistry with good company.
cudos! ~Briana


