Experiences with bizarre emails from others in your field?

Hi Tia, I have not yet had this unpleasant experience. I did see the comments posted by the person who said they sent the email and why they sent it. And I really didn't understand their issue or why they seem to have an issue at all.

What Joe has passed onto you is very fitting and hopefully helpful.

I'll be interested to hear how others have handled something like this.

Haven't had that happen but it is indeed strange.

I would just shrug it off. It's not worth your time.

Wow. Sorry to hear that happened to you.

In my experience, while there are millions of wonderful, caring, decent people in the world, there are also a number of them for whom tact is just not understood. The only way I've found to deal with them is to thank them for their feedback and move on.

A "friend" recently said to me, "It's so good to see you happy in your relationship; I always knew that someday you would get it right." At a party last week, some men walked up to me and said, "Do you color your hair; we think it's very beautiful in the sunlight."

Now, my friend's comment is highly suspect--she has a rep for back-handed compliments that ultimately are really all about her, and I just dismiss her "compliment".

The gentlemen at the party, I think they actually meant well, and their comment just came out a little mis-phrased.

Sometimes someone's "helpful" comments are actually all about them and sometimes they just come out wrong. (Sometimes they are both.)

Of course, there's always the more cosmic perspective, which says that sometimes, "it" isn't even about the people who were initially involved, but that it's about the passers-by, e.g., your experience leads you to post here and a conversation ensues, that might lead to knowledge and/or growth for some one of us in this audience ;-)

Wow, I've received some spam but not any personal attacks like that. I wouldn't worry about that individual too much if I were you. People have their own agenda for the things they do and you just can't account for them. Art T/.

Tia... I have experienced a few similar comments throughout my life. I hope I've learned to "shrug them off" and not take them too seriously. You always need to consider the source of every comment.

I like to remember daily the Serenity Prayer that goes something like this:

"Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

There many kind and considerate people in the world you can spend your time and caring with. Just ignore the others. Reacting to the negative, just feeds their fire. ...Howard

Tia, it's my personal opinion- certain issues/situations/people are best handled by simply ignoring them...

Tia, I once received a scalding email in which my integrity was at issue for the sender. Based upon a biznik posting of mine, the person assumed a few things about me that weren't true. It felt crappy, for sure, but you know what? From that I learned how to block unwanted emails... Best to you, Karen

Hallo.

I tend to focus on accepting constructive and inclusive-minded feedback. Sometimes it might be as little rough around the edges, but I can usually tell whether it's constructive or not.

If it feels at all judgmental, destructive, or exclusivity-minded, I figure the person is commenting on him/herself, because that can't be about me or any other person they would value.

Have a great week!