Posted by Leila Anasazi
, Seattle, Washington | Sep 30, 2007
Seattle-area Introverts and Biznik Virgins
I'm thinking about hosting a Biznik event especially for introverts and maybe for virgin Bizniks (those who've never attended a Biznik networking event).
See, it's taken me decades to outgrow and overcome my early years that programmed me into believing that "shy" is a handicap, and come to a place where I now see that my introverted nature is a valuable part of who I am--a part that just requires certain provisions.
Shyness/introversion in and of itself is not a handicap, but I believe that many prevailing beliefs and forces make introversion into a handicap. As well, most social events are geared toward the extroverts (uh, duh--since naturally most events are spear-headed by extroverts).
Having come to realize that the attribute of introversion is not a bad thing, I've been able to find social skills and other ways to take my quiet nature into "networking" settings, but it's almost always a chore to do so; I almost always have to drag myself into such situations--even though I often have a good time.
I know I'm not the only one in these shoes. And I know that there are certain elements of "events" that make me more or less comfortable. For example, very, very large events and/or those with a large degree of randomness to them, are very, very hard on my psyche. And some venues are more hospitable to my quiet, observing nature than are others. And noise levels affect me. And so on.
I keep putting myself out there because I typically do have compelling and satisfying interactions with others. But, like I said, it taxes me.
So I dream of events that are designed with us introverts specifically in mind. And I wonder if you do, too. And if you do, what qualities would they include?
I include virgin Bizniks in these thoughts, because I suspect that for many of you/them, that first foray into a Biznik happy hour can be full of curiosity and puzzles about how is this Biznik networking thing done--so maybe you're/they're not introverted per se, but, well, losing virginity can be an awkward, uncomfortable moment.
Anyway. What do you think?