What's Your Type?

I'm a nine and I love it. I have also been told I am bi-wing-ual. I have the 8 and 1 tendencies. That's cool, too. When I am not balanced, I can be the anal retentive drill sargeant. I prefer balance. I have not learned my subtype.

I see a nine as in balance, in the center of the symbol/diagram, a peacemaker, a negotiator, a strategist.

I do not like the shadow fo the nine (laziness). I see it as unproductive when I want to be more useful.

Thanks for setting up this group, Pete P>}

Interesting, Pete! Dan's a Nine too, and I see a lot of similarities in your description.

I'm a very strong Four - and have an obsession with feeling special. When I'm out of balance, I regress towards the negatives aspects of the Two - martyrdom with a feeling like no one appreciates all I do for them. But I haven't experienced that in a long time. I evolve towards the positive aspects of the One - things are in order and have their place, I'm meeting deadlines and making sh*t happen.

I've been studying and applying the Enneagram to my life since I was introduced to it in 1989. It's a fantastic tool, and the story behind it's 5000-year history is extraordinary.

I am married to a 4 with a 3 wing. Nines go to 3 in their heart. When we are both in 3 mode, we got a lot of stuff done quickly. It was the best part.

I'm a 4 married to a 9 too, Pete! And similar to Lara with the 1 and 2 bits. Plus I definitely have a 5 wing.

I have a love-hate relationship with the Enneagram and with the person who taught it to me!!

Lara - It figures there'd be a 9 somewhere behind the Biznik concept (and a 4! I don't want you to think your own part in this isn't noted and valued!)

I was only recently introduced to the Enneagram. My friend, Peleg, pegged me as a 3 with a 4 wing, which is just what I turned out to be.

I'm jumping over to that other thread now to see about good books on the topic. But if there are any 3s out there, I have a good PDF chapter about us. Email me!

I hear that I might be a 4. :-) I'm not sure. After reading some, I believed I was a 2. So, I look forward to learning more..

If I can I will.

I just took a test with the following results: You are most likely a type 4.

Taking wings into account, you seem to be a 4w3 or 7w8.

Then, I read the bits and I am feeling that Seven is way more me then 4. There are some 4 traits for sure but many 4 traits are not me. When I read seven on the other hand, it is more on point like all that it says fits.

I am a 7. I enjoy being a 7 but has its challenges. Can I switch? :))

You told me what I was when we went to lunch and I can not remember at all. (I bet that plays into what I am) I will be attending your class, can't wait! Of course, that is mostly because I adore you and want to see and learn. (again, I bet that plays into my numbers)

Hi Rachel and y'all!

I am indeed living the life of an Enneagram THREE and it's been an interesting journey of "recovering" the best parts of that PERFORMER/ACHIEVER energy and noticing when it's in overdrive (usually when I'm anxious or feeling invisible).

SOME BASICS ABOUT THREES:

Love and recognition are only for "champions."

Habitual Focus of Attention: Tasks, Roles, & Results

What "Performers" observe about themselves:
Their primary identification is with accomplishment and success;

They seek approval and acceptance based on performance;

Their attention goes to task;

Image is important;

They feel constant pressure to perform; and

There is an inattention to feelings/"Not now!"

Find out more about YOUR Enneagram Number HERE

And, if you want a free test that I think Rachel likes, take this one (from my website): Enneagram Quiz

Share what you learn 'cause I love this stuff. I'm actually offering my own FIRST Enneagram Retreat (for St. Joe's Women's Group) in early April.

I believe I'm a Two with a dominant Three wing. One test said I was a Three...but I identify more with Two.

"Twos with a dominant Three wing

Such Twos are more extraverted. They want a personal connection with others and enjoy making others feel good. They love to share their talents with family and loved ones.

Whilst friendly their Three wing makes them ambitious. They are often seductive as the result of a combination between the desire for love and the Three desire for acceptance. These people are less self-critical than Twos with a dominant One wing. When unhealthy are often conceited and overbearing."

This makes a lot of sense and reminds me why I do what I do most of the time and keeps me in check.

I love the positive/integrated part of being a 4. The drama got overwhelming at one time and all I could focus on was how do I get out of the drama to get the good stuff? Once I stopped "doing" Enneagram stuff, the drama went away!

I have to NOT try to be a 4, just be Margit. The natural enthusiasm and quirkiness comes out easier and better when I'm not all hung up about it.

Quirky totally works for people (especially kids) with ADD because we can get stuck in our perceptions and it's great to have someone give you a metaphorical slap to tweak your perception.

For instance, I was working with one client last week and she was going on an on about her crazy "hookups" and I said, "So you're taking a shower with X, pretend you're the bar of soap - what are you thinking about all these hookups?" It was great :-)

At one of Rachel's excellent intro classes, with a follow-up over coffee, I was pegged as a Type 1 with a strong 7 connection, a 9 wing (possibly equi-winged) and a social subtype.

Works for me.

And Rachel, I would be up for any other class(es) you might want to put on to expand on what you do in your intro. There are so many ways you could go with this; I would defer to your best judgment about what would be most useful to a diverse group like the Biznik community.

What a great discussion, everyone! Thank you.

Rachel, I'm not sure where the discussion is on what your group members would want for a new ENNEAGRAM WORKSHOP led by you. I'm guessing that laying out my wishes here will work for you and maybe this group.

I've just offered an intro and the group participants begged me to do a part II on romantic relationships and enneagram. My guess is one could broaden it to just "relationships" to include bosses, kids, lovers, flings, if that person felt like it. Up to you.

"I just know, as a three, I wanna get something useful out of it to become an even better enneagram facilitator!" -- a three always says stuff like this but usually in her/his head (inside voice).

p.s. I've tested 3 with a 2 wing (more recently) and 3 with a 1 wing from age 3 to 30, I swear!

Hi Rachel and the gang. Reading these posts has been fascinating.

Hey, I just gave a workshop entitled Uncovering Obstacles & Assets for Your Unique Spiritual Practice within An Enneagram Framework. This event was held at SLEEPING LADY in Leavenworth, WA and, I must say, it was wonderful.

I love the work of Riso & Hudson and so did the participants. What they wanted most as a NEXT Enneagram Workshop is one on Romance and the Enneagram: What Do I Need to Know to Find and/or Get Along with Mr./Ms. Right?

I've decided to offer this workshop at my own Sound View Retreat Center (on the puget sound on Bainbridge Island). It would be so cool to have our Biznik Enneagram group come for free with the caveat that they brought a friend who paid the $50 (half off).

Of course, I can't wait for your next enneagram workshop for those of us who fancy ourselves "intermediate" students. When is your book with your friend going to follow? I hope you'll let me help!

Blessings to all!