Here's an example of where a well-meaning action on Facebook can
backfire in your face. If this happened to someone else, it
is quite likely they would have simply removed the person from being
their Facebook Friend. Or worse, reported them as a SPAMMER.
I received my coach training from Terri Levine of The
Coaching Institute. She recently started a group on
Facebook, called EXTRAordinary
Coaches, which I joined. As a result, someone
contacted me indicating that she noticed that we were both members of
the new group and requested that we become Facebook Friends.
I accepted her request, sending her a message thanking her
for reaching out to me.
Almost immediately, I received on my Facebook Wall the following from
Thanks for being my friend! Please get my free eCourse "Coaching
Business Blast Off" at http://www.thecoachmarketer.co or visit my blog
and register for my Free weekly teleclass at
My first inclination was to remove her as my Facebook Friend, but
instead I sent this message:
"S______," we've just met! I feel
like it's the "first date" and you're already wanting to get to home
base! Can we get to know each other before you start marketing to me?
She apologized, offering that she didn't mean to offend:
I was offering an invitation to
something free. I have a lot of coaches who really enjoy my free
teleseminars and are grateful to get the help and information. I am
very sorry if my offer was offensive to you...please accept my apology.
I wish I could offer the response I gave, but I'll just
have to give the gist, as it appears that she has deleted it from her
profile so that I'm unable to cut-and-paste it here.
I told her that I was sure that her teleseminars are valuable and that
I'd no doubt enjoy them. I mentioned that perhaps I was in
her target market, even.
However, I told her, it's a delicate balance in social networking because it is by its very nature relationship-based. Since she was the one who had reached out to me to become Facebook Friends and as soon as I accepted the request, she offered me her free eCourse, it appeared that getting me into her sales cycle was the only motive behind the Friends request.