Noreen's Biz Talk posts

Talking Begins the Healing

If your friend was in a harmful relationship, would you tell her? Probably. Or would something stop you?

I received a brochure as a crime victims provider that reminded counselors to ask if there is physical violence in the relationship. Evidently a lot of cases of physical violence are missed for failure to ask this question. It is also a good question to ask your friends that are having problems in their relationships.

I also know from clients that counselors sometimes fail to identify the dynamics of a verbally abusive relationship. While everyone tends to lose their temper once in a while, and say something abusive, it's different from the person whose style of communication is verbally abusive. Often the abusive person presents very well in public and the underlying personality disorder is missed.

This happens with friends too because people with Narcissistic personalities (NPD) and even Borderline personalities (BPD) can be great fun, unless you are partnered to them (or have been parented by someone with this problem). It is important not to discount your friend's concerns and feelings. It will sound like s/he is describing a different person then the one you may have witnessed only in public. Intimate relationships are more difficult for most people and especially trigger the hurtful side of people who have NPD and BPD.

If you have a friend is having these problems, it is important that they get trained assistance. New Beginnings runs free support groups for women who have been physically abused as an adult. Sherperd's Counseling Services has groups for survivors of sexual abuse on a sliding scale fee. The Crisis Clinic can refer you to others.

I run Circle of Healing Groups. The Wednesday group for Healing from Verbally Abusive Relationships Evening Group is forming. TUESDAY COH has an opening for one female member. For more details visit http://www.circleofhealing.us

New Client Special

A Lot of Change is happening and that can mean more stress. That is the best time to see a counselor. Good Stress Management means better decision making and better weathering of the economic storms. It may be tempting to postpone counseling at this time, but that may only make your situation worse if you are experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, or trauma (PTSD). Short-term crisis counseling can prevent many problems from developing later.

Affordable Counseling can make a difference. I provide a sliding fee scale already and I am offering a 10% discount to Biznik members for first month of individual counseling. I offer free half hour consultations.

Share your Successes!

Take a moment for shameless self-promotion and clue us in on how you did it.

I am happy to announce that I got a group, Circle of Healing off the ground and running. I made use of all the available websites to me at the time in advertising (given a modest budget), including the free ones. It wouldn't have worked without professional looking paid websites, but using all the possilibities increased ranking in search engines. Flexibility in scheduling the time and day seemed to be a key. I also requested a high level of commitment and time involvement, which I feel self-selected members truly ready for positive change.

Noreen Wedman, M.S., Proud to Announce

Circle of Healing is beginning Wed. July 25th. Circle of Healing is a safe place to heal for people who have spent years with a verbally abusive parent or partner or boss. Free workbook for people who join now: http://www.CircleOfHealing.us

Verbal Self-Defense

Blog me! Announcing a blog for dealing with insensitive, insulting, or discounting remarks! Did you respond with an effective retort or become tongue tied? Share your success and help others. Or ask for help with a remark that stumped you. http://www.happyfrog.net/healingwords