You CAN Be Happy!

During the coaching process I sometimes hear lots of reasons why a Mom can't (won't) take action.  One of the major reasons I hear is a lack of support from family and friends.  With this MINDSET Moms are expecting others to make them happy, fix what's wrong with their lives, and overall bring them joy.

This MINDSET can cause lots of harm to a Mom looking for support.  The problem with thinking this way is that you never get to be accountable for your actions, your feelings, and ultimately yourself.  You're expecting something from someone else that is simply not always going to happen.

Sure, your family may want you to be happy and do things that they believe will make you happy.  However, it's ultimately your responsibility to be happy.  It's your job to motivate yourself by seeking out experiences, groups, and fellowships that enrich your life.
 
Whenever you make a change, especially for the better there are always going to be people who you assumed would be there for you that let you down.  Maybe for you this doesn't mean they discourage you; rather they fail to encourage you.  The result is a mix between frustration, sadness, and disappointment...just to name a few.

As I've said before, if you fail to see the big picture, here it is for you: it's not their job to motivate you and/or be on board with what you're doing.  I know from personal and my clients' experiences that not everyone is going to jump up and down every time you accomplish a goal, make progress, or hit a milestone.  Some will but not everyone will.

As a Mompreneur I'm sure you may have had many people look at you "funny" when you told them what your vision was for your business.  Some were probably equally excited but some were not.  Being an entrepreneur can be very lonely at times.  What you have to learn is that as long as someone is not standing in your way, you can get to a level of peace with their level of support (or lack there of).

How?  Simply put: realize your friends, family, etc. just may not be into what you're into at this place in their lives or ever.  That's the joy of being different.  You have "your thing" and they have theirs.  They have their own lives to live and goals/dreams to fulfill.  Everyone doesn't always have time to sit by the sideline and be your cheerleader and it doesn't always mean they don't want to cheer you on; they just may not have time.  Sure that's a bit tough, but so true.

So what can you do if you really don't want to feel so alone?  Try these:

1.  Pray for the strength and ability to forgive and get past any frustration, resentment, and or anger you have toward your family and friends who you don't feel support you and your dreams.

2.  Go out and find cheerleaders among those striving for the same goal(s) you are.  Check out your local church, Moms group, Momprenuers group, and so on.  The possibilities are endless.  You can use Yellowpages.com and Meetup.com to get you started.  Even better, ask me about The Work It Mama! Online Community(TM)!

3.  Make the commitment to regularly attend and contribute to the group.  Don't just join to get, be sure you're joining so that you can offer your expertise, experiences, and positive touch to the group.

When you change your mindset and decide you're going to be happy, no one can steal your joy.  Make the decision today to be happy and then go out and meet other happy people.  You'll feel much better about things once you surround yourself with a willing group of cheerleaders.

Call my office today and find out how you can join The Work It Mama! Online Community(TM).  There you'll find lots of Moms to network, support, and cheer you on!  Next, visit YellowPages.com and Meetup.com and look for local "live" groups in your area.  Try to select a group with members doing activities you enjoy and also on the same page you're on in your life.  If you simply don't see anything that interests you, start a MeetUp and invite a few people to join.